DALE IN THE NEWS
Ottawa Citizen: Men need life mentors too
“Even the toughest guys I know are relieved to have someone safe to go to for advice and a pep talk,” adds Vaughn.
You may think men are obsessed with Star Wars because of the epic battle scenes. But in truth, we guys still dream of meeting a little green Yoda who can bring out our full potential, like making spaceships move with our minds.
Joking aside, January is national mentorship month. Much of the media focus is understandably on helping at-risk youth make better life decisions, along with an important conversation on empowering women to climb the career ladder. But we wonder, what about life mentors for men?
There are very few university courses that focus on how to be a good husband or father, how to balance work and family life, or how to approach mid-life crises without quitting our jobs to travel the world. And few of us have the benefit of being in a book club where more than literary wisdom is exchanged.
“Every single man deals with self-doubt at some point in his life,” says Dale Thomas Vaughn, president of the Global Center for Healthy Masculinities in California. In a recent conversation he told us, “this fear keeps us stagnant and isolated” unless we find someone who believes in us and motivates us to move forward.
“Even the toughest guys I know are relieved to have someone safe to go to for advice and a pep talk,” adds Vaughn.
Knowledge For Men: Remove Your Mask and be Authentic
I was honored to spend time with Andrew Ferebee on his amazing show. We covered 6 key points during the show. Enjoy!
I was honored to spend time with Andrew Ferebee on his amazing show. We covered 6 key points during the show. Enjoy!
Favorite Success Quote
“The aim of life is self development, to realize one’s nature perfectly”~Oscar Wilde
Key Points
1. You Have to Take Your Masks Off
If you want to live your life to the fullest possible capacity, you have to take your masks off.
You can no longer live your life in-authentically to please others, you must be true to yourself and who you want to be. Do not allow social, familial or societal norms to govern who you are.
If you believe in something that is controversial or unpopular, voice your opinion. If you want to live your life in an uncommon or even frowned up way, do it! Don’t let anyone or anything stand in the way of you living your truth.
2. Introspect
One of the most powerful tools in your arsenal for discovering yourself and your purpose is introspection.
In today’s busy world, we almost never have any time alone and in silence to spend with our thoughts. For Dale, he achieves this time by hiking, for you, it may be morning meditation, an ocean swim, or a long walk outside.
Do whatever you need to do to clear your mind and get the time you need to reflect on who you are, where you are going, and what you want out of life.
SigEp Journal: SigEp alumni host panel on sexual assault prevention at international conference
Here's a quick write-up about my panel at the International Conference on Masculinities.
If you don't know, I'm a member of the Balanced Man fraternity. Here's a quick write-up in the SigEp Journal about my panel at the International Conference on Masculinities.
Dr. Shane McKee, Washington State Renaissance, and Dale Vaughn, Southern Methodist ’06, joined Lisa Hickey, Publisher and CEO of The Good Men Project, at the International Conference on Masculinities in New York today to discuss the role that fraternities can play in combating campus sexual assaults.
Huff Post Live: Engaging Men For Gender Equality
While I was in New York for the International Conference on Masculinities, I got to appear on Huff Post Live (right after Adam Corolla, weird huh?).
While I was in New York for the International Conference on Masculinities, I got to appear on Huff Post Live (right after Adam Corolla, weird huh?). There was also a blizzard going on outside at that moment, so I was just grateful to be not freezing.
This clip is no longer active at Huff Post Live, here is a clip for you to watch:
Huffington Post: I Ran with the Bulls, I Ran with Death, I Ran Towards Life
What it feels like to run with the bulls. And how it made me a better man.
What it feels like to run with the bulls. And how it made me a better man.
"Nobody ever lives their life all the way up, except bull-fighters." - Hemingway
There are 800 meters of cobblestone streets in Spain that host the world's most well-known footrace for fools. If you've ever wondered why anyone in their right mind would run with the bulls -- or maybe some primal yop from inside your loins shows you know why -- and you simply want to know what it feels like... I will be your fool.
Maria Shriver.com | 5 Reasons Why 6-Week Goals Are Better
The shininess of the new calendar will wane once we get closer to February… and all of those feelings of positive momentum can wear off as well if you’re not still motivated this time next month.
Most people don’t even write down their resolutions anywhere meaningful, so looking back on 12 months in late December always feels hollow. In my experience with coaching professionals on goal-setting, the best way to shift your habits is to set out consecutive 6-8 week projects that feel motivating. Basically at the beginning and end of each quarter, you’ll set project goals and then measure them respectively.